Finding Support
There’s probably no greater help to someone experiencing mental health challenges than having appropriate support in life. It doesn’t matter whether one is single, in a relationship, or married. Having meaningful and helpful support from significant people in our lives is an essential part of our wellness journey.
When we think about the subject of finding support, it is important to note that there are many different types of support we might need…
Emotional - this is one of the most important types of support. Having someone with whom you can talk, and in whom you can confide and trust with your thoughts and feelings can lift a heavy burden. There is a good chance this list may not be long, but you’d only need two or three trusted supports to process very vulnerable thoughts, feelings, worries, and cares. This might also include a friend who is encouraging and funny, who knows how to lift your spirits.
Financial - this is a valuable person of support whom you can trust in those moments when financial help is needed. This might be a parent or friend, and even sometimes an employer.
Logistical - this is a person who can provide transportation when necessary, and possible temporary shelter or housing.
Spiritual - having someone who shares your personal spiritual beliefs can help you connect to your Higher Power, and help you with such situations as attending gatherings, connecting with spiritual small groups, and local spiritual events in your community.
Physical - this is the type of support that shows up for specific tasks: helping you pack your home, moving houses, fixing or repairing things, and cleaning, just to name a few common task needs.
Medical and Mental Health - your therapist, psychiatrist and primary care physician all provide much-needed support to help you live a healthy life, mentally and physically. This would also include other medical specialists based on your unique needs.
These are just a few of the types of people you will need for times of support. Think of these supporters as your “team”. Much like a sports team, each team member has a very specific role and function. Your mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical health depends upon your “team” members doing their job, collaborating with you, and providing the unique support they offer.
I want to encourage you to do the following:
Look at the list of needs above- which ones do you need throughout your week?
Make a list of these needs one by one
Now think through the people in your life who have occasionally “shown up” for you. Who are they? Which of the support needs do they fill? You might have some people on your list who provide multiple support functions, like spiritual/financial/logistical.
Create your team! Call your support person and ask if he/she/they would be willing to support you occasionally. You will be pleasantly surprised at their responses!
